Healthy Relationships

As teenagers, being in a relationship is common. Defining a healthy one will ensure that you and your partner last for a long time. Although, not every relationship works well, and that’s okay! Relationships are not as perfect or easy as social media portrays them. In reality, they require a great input of time, energy, and stability (emotional, mental, physical, and financial). But, they can be opportunities to reflect on your past mistakes and improve. Keep in mind, if you are currently not in a relationship, do not worry! The right time will come. There is no need to be in one right now. 

Here are key points to remember in order to build and maintain a healthy relationship:

I. Communication

• If your partner has made you upset, say something! Giving them the silent treatment is actually toxic because they may be unaware of what is causing you to feel those negative emotions. 

• Honesty is absolutely crucial because it is helpful for hearing and understanding each other’s point of view and preventing distrust. 

• Politeness; while communicating, keep your tone calm and not interrupt each other. When doing this, you will be able get the message across clearly and effectively.

• Expressing your emotions; being emotionally connected with your partner allows both of you to empathize with each other.

• Showing appreciation; if your partner simply shows kindness towards you or has made a positive impact on your life, giving gifts or even saying “thank you” will show that you are genuinely grateful to have them included in your life.

II. Respect

• Patience is key; there is no need to rush! Set boundaries and confirm consent from both partners. If you are uncomfortable or not ready for something certain, speak up! 

• Each partner should be contributing 50%; an equal amount of energy. If one partner has more control over the other, this will result in more disputes. Additionally, decisions shouldn’t be one-sided or abide by one partner’s ways all the time.

• Loyalty; if you were to commit to a relationship, make sure not to cheat since it would inevitably lead to trust issues. Infidelity is also a sign of love that is not genuine because it shows that your eyes are fixated on someone other than your partner.

• Spending quality time with each other is a must! Finding activities that you and your partner are interested in will definitely strengthen your relationship and increase the bond you share. Also, be supportive of one another and grow together to become better people.

• Giving privacy; yes, quality time is important. Although, giving each other privacy and space is necessary as well. This will allow both of you to focus on other priorities such as family, friends, school, hobbies, etc. As for invading privacy (an example is demanding the passwords of their social media accounts), this will arouse trust issues and jealousy, which are major causes of toxic relationships.

III. Yourself

• Before entering any relationship, be kind and loving towards yourself! Do not entirely depend on others for love, happiness, etc. Life is unpredictable; if you unfortunately become heartbroken, it can really take a toll on yourself. For some people, it sadly makes them question their worth (which by the way, you are worthy of being loved!). In short, self love helps you endure the pain quicker. In addition, be your true self! If they demand you to become someone you are genuinely not just for their own satisfaction, that is a red flag.

IV. Other Points

• Always, always, always be aware of red flags and do not disregard them.

• If  something about your relationship causes you to feel stressed or confused, ask for advice from friends, family, etc! Doing this may help you gain insight from others’ experiences and make you realize something that has not come into your mind before.